We are in constant dialogue inside. Unless you’re in pure silent meditation, that brain of yours is busy. Thinking about your to-do list, contemplating decisions, assessing life and others. It’s too easy to look at others and respond with some judgment, criticism, or comparison. Worse yet, contempt.
In seeing others, do you decide you are somehow better? Or do you then feel even more self-conscious? Passing judgment on others who are struggling or acting a certain way creates a distance between you and them. But you know, deep down, that they are no different than you.
As you go through life, your ego may be shouting, “Look at me! See how great I am! Tell me how great I am! Love me!” Or, on the other end of the spectrum, your ego may be mumbling, “Don’t look at me. Please don’t notice my flaws. Don’t say anything about how I messed up. If only someone could love me.” And there are all of the points in between. Right in the middle is the place where you can align with your deeper layer, your soul.
When there is a disconnect between your human layer, your ego, and your soul, you feel it. You can use more thoughts and criticisms to pretend, but your soul knows the truth. Listen to your soul speak. What does it say about that other person? What does it say about you? Herein lies the challenge. Have your human layer match your soul layer. When you catch yourself having a judgmental thought about yourself or someone else, ask your soul. Let that loving connection shine through instead. It truly is beautiful.